Yesterday I posted about the engagement of my son. It was mainly to report the event and gather congratulations (which I got plenty). This post is about the cultural aspects.
Marriage in Pakistan is usually split into different, but flexible, events.
-Word of Mouth: The families meet each other and approve. That is informal engagement.
-Some then go through a formal engagement ceremony. It could be simple or a bit elaborated. We went for the elaborated one. Some people do not bother to go through the event.
-The marriage is usually a three day activity. I will explain that in some future post.
So, this is how a formal engagement ceremony goes. (It is very similar to the wedding ceremony).
-First to reach at the venue is the girl’s family. They are the hosts of the event. Other guests may arrive a bit after the stated time.
-The boy’s family arrives at the venue and is received by the girl’s family.
-The boy sits on the designated bridal sofa, usually with a friend.
The one on the right is my son.
-The girl with her family and friends then enters the hall and the couple then sits together.
This is me, actually trying to capture the couple’s eye view.
-Then all invited families give some token gift to the girls or boy or to both. Generally it is cash.
-This activity takes quite a while. Photographs are constantly being taken. Each family tries a photo like the next one.
Standing from right are, myself, my younger son, my daughter and my wife.
-Food is served after this.
-The guest may now either stay for a while or leave at their convenience. the atmosphere is now more relaxed.
-We had some dancing by the kids.
-Friends and or cousins or families continue to get photographed.
-And I am capturing some informal and candid moments.
Hope you enjoy.